A random conglomeration of thoughts by yours truly.
And in hurt
Published on January 25, 2006 By perrinwlf In Blogging
I lost my cool the other day. I'm usually a really laid back guy, slow to anger and to speak, which is why this out burst surprised me. I just found out that I had been lied to. Not in the little way, but in that painful, grasping your stomach choking on words and furiously blinking way. I've been lied to before, call it a family tradition, but this just completely caught me off guard. Thats when the evil Tim popped his head up and let the world know. I'm ashamed that I let my aggression out in such a careless manner. I completely ripped into the person, and even though I know it wasn't the right way to do it, I still felt like they deserved it. I feel bad, yet not bad, if that makes any sense. I'm not sure what to do anymore. For awhile there I thought I had some stuff figured out. Should I apologize, even though I don't feel they deserve it? I mean, should I feel justified or ashamed?
Comments
on Jan 25, 2006

In otherwords, you feel justified.

If you think your reaction went too far, then appologize for that.  Not for ripping into them, but for over reacting.  If you feel your reaction was appropriate for the infraction incurred, do not appologize.  But offer an olive branch.

on Jan 25, 2006
never say you are sorry if you mean what you said.

Like docguy said you can apoligize for the WAY you said it. not for the content.
on Jan 25, 2006
Apologize only after they do.
on Jan 26, 2006
Why apologize for something that is truth? We are not born so we can please other people and hold all of our own truths inside ourselves, while we allow others to say what they want. Plus, anger fades. Remembering that you stood up for yourself is always precious. (In my opinion).
on Feb 02, 2006
If you think your reaction went too far, then appologize for that. Not for ripping into them, but for over reacting. If you feel your reaction was appropriate for the infraction incurred, do not appologize. But offer an olive branch.


Dr.Guy is a wise, wise man.

Dan