I'm confused

what did I do wrong this time?

Published on December 31, 2005 By ISOL In Dating

Right now I am completely confused, and though I hate admitting this, a little hurt. I just began a relationship with a girl I have been waiting years for, literally. I was so pumped and even though I will not let myself become the overbearing clingy type, I have two weeks before I go back to college. Suffice to say, I want to spend as much time as possible with her.
I asked her if she wanted to hang out with my friends and I today, and she wasn't able to, ah well I can understand that. We were planning on spending new years eve together, and I have to admit, it is the time for new romances. The problem is, she was able to bring two friends before, and now she can only bring one. I thought the logical choice would be to spend new years eve with her new boyfriend. I guessed wrong, I was beat out by a female friend of hers. Not only was I bummed, I was pissed too.
Is it wrong of me to think this way? Am I dragging this out of porportion? I'm going to spend new years eve with RJ going to one of his gigs now. Don't get me wrong, I love RJ like a brother, but I really was looking forward to that kiss at midnight, and it just won't be the same with him, haha. Maybe I'm totally out of line, or maybe we're both thinking different things. I like hanging with my buddy, but to be honest, I think the eve is going to suck without my girl. I need help!

Comments

InBloom

on Dec 31, 2005

I think it's understandable that you are pissed. I wonder as well why she would choose her friend over you. Have you let her know how you feel? Maybe you should. Tell her you don'tt understand why she'd choose to spend time with someone else when you are going to be around for only a few weeks more before heading back to school.
Best of luck and hope you have a Great New Year regardless of what happens.

Tova7

on Dec 31, 2005

Talk to her, tell her how you feel.

When I was younger and not married, I often dragged my gal pals with me everywhere I went. As a matter-of-fact it went without saying. Yes I dated without them, but rarely.

The fact you are leaving, well she may be trying to distance herself from you...its perfectly NORMAL. It's self protection. It happens all the time in families where one member is gone a lot with a job or whatever.

Just talk to her. Tell her how you feel. You still have time to salvage tonight. Offer to drive her and the buddy and go where they go! If she doesn't want that, then you might want to re evaluate your relationship.

Good luck!

ISOL

on Dec 31, 2005

Thanks for the comments. Joeuser is great because you can have the advice that good friends should give, from people you have never met.

Trudygolightly

on Dec 31, 2005

Absolutely talk with her, find out why she's not going with you when you are leaving! I wouldn't advise an "attack"
session where she gets blamed, just ask and let her know that you feel hurt.

From my own experience, if someone lets me know they feel hurt, I'd bend over backwards to make amends! IF I care about
them that is.

New Year's Eve is special for couples, so I totally understand you're feeling blue and dejected.....IMHO she belongs with you
tonight. Her and her friend can get together another time and her friend needs to understand that.

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